thewinkingelephant:

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toptumbles:

Even worse than a friendzone

I’m getting sick of the term friendzone.

Me too. And, more than that, I’m sick of the people using it.

Women are told almost constantly—by the media, the government, and the overall attitude of society—that our bodies don’t fucking belong to us. The mythical friendzone is just another way for misogynists to enforce that idea while getting to play the victim.

It sucks when someone you have feelings for doesn’t share those feelings; it happens to women all the time, too. We hear “I just want to be friends” and “you’re like one of the guys” and “you’re like a sister to me” just as often. But you’ll never hear a woman complain that guys just don’t appreciate a Nice Girl because we’re taught it’s our own fucking fault when we’re rejected—we aren’t pretty enough or thin enough or sexy enough, we weren’t sexual enough or were too sexual, we put out too much or too little or too soon or not soon enough, we didn’t wear our hair the right way or our skirt the right length, we’re “too tomboyish” or “too butch” or “too feminine”, or we’re “not their type”, or we’re otherwise not good enough in various ways to entice the man to grace us with his affection.

But when we’re not interested in someone, we’re vilified. We’re the bitch that lead them on, the bitch who let them buy us dinner but didn’t want to date them, the bitch who doesn’t appreciate a nice guy, the bitch they were nice to and then got nothing in return from.

And, frankly, fuck those people. Showing interest in me, being friendly with me, getting close to me, or eating a meal with me (even if they paid for it) doesn’t obligate me to open my heart or my legs. And anyone who doesn’t appreciate my friendship sure as hell doesn’t deserve my love or my pussy.

one of my best friends and i had this serious-angry discussion over “nice guys” and the “friend zone” due to one of my guy friends getting mad at me for “friend zoning” him. even though he knows perfectly well that i like our mutual friend. fuckin ridiculous.

I use “friend zone” to talk about guys…  To me it was always a term that went both ways.  There’s this one guy I could’ve dated, ‘cause I think we were kinda into each other at one point, but it’d be weird because we’ve been friends for so long, we literally have put ourselves in the “friend zone,” and it’d be weird if things went further.

And then there’s my really close male friends who are way into the “friend zone.”  It’d be so awkward dating them because they’re like brothers.

So I don’t really think there’s anything wrong with the term “friend zone,” but the problem is with some of the people who use it.

(Source: lolsnaps.com)